Hey guys, 

Cooking is one of my passions, and as I’m beginning to get a little better at getting dates, I want to begin cooking for girls at my place. 

 If anyone has some solid ideas on fun cooking dates, I would love to hear it. I’m also wondering how you structure the date, as in, do you invite the girl over to help cook, do you go out afterward, what night of the week is best for cooking dates, etc. I think this is something that can help a lot of us in the community.

Answer

 Setting up the Date: the Dating Coach

I usually do this for a second or third date, on a week night (Sunday-Thursday) starting about 6:00-7:30pm

I cook regularly and take pictures of a few of the best dishes. Start doing the same. On some evening around dinner time text her a picture of a great dish you made and talk about how well it came out: “this is one of my best renditions”, or “this dish came out great.”

If she bites and asks about if you really know how to cook, or what is in the dish, or anything like that, then you can start a short exchange about how you learned to cook and so on. At this point you can do one of two things; (1) if it is “on” and she seems really interested, then you can set up the date for her to come over, (2) if there is moderate interest you can end the exchange with an open ended offer: “Ya, a few of my friends try to get me to cook for them all the time. If you’re a good girl maybe we could cook together some time.” If that gets her to directly ask you to do it, set up the date. If not, change the topic and continue the text exchange. Re initiate the conversation about dinner some time (hours/days) in the future, when you have a high energy text exchange going.

 The Date: How to approach women

Get her to come to your house/apartment, and tell her you will go shop for the ingredients together. When you greet her at the door gives her a hug, and ask if she needs to drop anything off in the house. Go back inside briefly if needed and drive her to the store. You should have the recipe decided in advance and have cooked it WELL a time or two. Basically you want to look at the recipe as a reference rather than instructional, because you already know how to cook it. Have the ingredients listed on paper or in your phone so you don’t forget anything (that’s the worst)! Moving her from your place to the store, and from isle to isle throughout the store builds investment from her. Moving around the store give lots of opportunity to keno escalate (touch her). Lead her by the arm, touch her on the back as you walk around. Hip check her or put your arm around her shoulders as you both look at the racks while selecting items (don’t hold the touches too long at this point, you want to break first and leave her wanting more.) Remember you are the leader, you direct where to go next and make a final decision on which salad dressing, cut of meat, or whatever goes in the cart. Discuss it with her since that makes you more of a team and creates a “we/us” environment, but don’t look to her to make decisions. Part of her attraction to you is your ability to simplify her life, be a man and make the decisions. Once you have all the ingredients, go pick out a bottle of wine together. When you get to the register pay for the items, if she offers to split it tell her “no that’s not necessary.” If she insists, tell her she can pay for dinner next time. Calm, cool and collect, nothing rattles you, and nothing is that big a deal.

Once you guys get back to the house go put on the TV or some music while she unbags the ingredients. Open the wine and poor both of you a glass (buy wine glasses if you don’t have any, you can get them for cheap.) Cheers her, “to good food and great company.” Now it is time to start cooking, again, this is your kitchen so you want to lead. Give her jobs to do, like cut the vegetables and wash the salad, while you cut up the meat and do the more involved steps. Keep up the banter and conversation. Touch her thought, on the back, stroke her hair (when you hands are clean), pull her away from what she is working on and tease her about how bad a job she is doing. If you haven’t yet, kiss her while you are cooking. Not a make out, but a nice kiss or two, then go on about your business and finish preparing the meal.

Once dinner is ready, sit down on the couch and watch a comedy movie. You don’t want action or a drama. Action has fighting, shooting, killing and stirs up the wrong emotions for romance. Dramas are too involved, and you will be less likely to banter during the movie. A good slap stick comedy, creates great emotions and does not demand your undivided attention. You can easily miss 15 minutes of the movie while you talk about something and it won’t matter. Once you finish eating you are both already on the couch and the rest should be history.

Remember guys, any girl that comes alone to your house for dinner is very interested, and is hopping you successfully seduce her. She wants to be alone with you romantically and it is your job to stir up the right emotions for that to happen. Lead, be confident with your actions, touch her, deep eye contact, smile, and escalate the interaction sexually. It is your job and she wants you to do it.

Have fun!

 -Von Pounders

pounders@lovesystems.com

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